5 REASONS WHY YOU DON"T HAVE A DATE ON V-DAY!

When was the last time you had a date on Valentine’s Day? While it’s considered a holiday for women and kryptonite for singles Valentine’s Day should be celebrated no matter who you are. Not as a day to buy gifts and flowers but as a reminder of how much love all of us have in our lives. I’m sorry if you think that’s incredibly cheesy. I’m often asked, “What do you do if you don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day?” The answer: nothing. The dating truth is, you’re not going to do anything differently on Valentine’s Day that your stubborn behind wasn’t willing to do 45 days ago. What many singles insist on doing is taking an inventory of their love life. How did they get here? Dateless and lonely? How have they managed not to have a date, not just on February 14th but every other day of the year? Some singles can’t help but wonder why they don’t have a date on loves’ most celebrated day. Well if you must know, here are a few conclusions I’ve drawn from experience.  

It’s not a priority. If you don’t have a date on Valentine’s Day maybe you should admit that it just wasn’t high on your to do list. Some people are last-minute Christmas shoppers, dating is no different. You can spend so much time waiting for the perfect gift to jump out at you all the while the date is ever approaching and you’ve bought nothing. Telling yourself that something is important is not the same as making it a priority. Whatever we focus on in our lives the universe creates. If you harbor and being single, that is how you will stay.  

You missed an opportunity. It’s possible that you overlooked someone who was really interested in you. Perhaps you failed to engage them; maybe you convinced yourself that they weren’t flirting with you after all. There are numerous chances singles get to meet potential dates but many fail to seize the moment and take advantage of the occasion. Some might call it obsession but when you’re single keeping an eye out for chance encounters with possible dates is just smart. Speak up, make eye contact with strangers and if your intuition tells you someone might be interested, go with it!  

You’ve spent too much time with the wrong person. Often singles don’t listen to their gut. Sometimes they listen to their heart and not their head. Even when we know we should move on some singles waste their time on people who are no good for them. When the relationship goes south or red flags are raised instead of moving on, as we know we should, many singles stay in unhappy relationships making it unlikely that they will find who they’re meant to be with.
 
You didn’t make an effort. Hot men and women don’t go around knocking on doors asking for dates. When singles are looking for potential partners it takes making an effort not only with your looks but also being outgoing, open-minded and aggressive. You have to set yourself apart from others and stand out in a crowd. I’m not suggesting that you overly pursue every attractive person you see but at least show signs of interest. It’s ok if the feelings aren’t reciprocated. Knowing that you made an effort and didn’t let yourself down trumps the feeling of rejection any day.  

You didn’t give yourself a chance. So many single men and women approach dating thinking, “What could this person possibly see in me?” or maybe you’re one of those people who are afraid others will lose interest eventually. It’s common to sabotage ourselves with potential date to avoid, what we think, is inevitable rejection. The truth is, you can never really know what someone else sees in you. You have to believe that once you think someone is amazing they will feel the same. You can never believe that you’re not good enough, which is the exact dialogue that keeps many singles…well, single. While being single on Valentine’s Day might not have been your choice it is your fault? Are you guilty of any of the mentioned behaviors? Well, just be yourself and never lose hope that one you will meet the right person for you.